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Love lost online: Aussies urged to be more aware of internet romance scams with more than $25million stolen in just ONE year

Australian consumer watchdog will start sending letters to suspected victims of online dating scams
    There were close to 3,000 reports of relationship scams in 2013, with one third of people losing more than $10,000
    Those who have been potentially scammed will be identified by suspicious cross-border money movements
Online love scammers have stolen more than $25 million from Australians in just one year, prompting the consumer watchdog to join forces with government anti-money laundering agents in a bid to crack down.

The Australian Competition and Consumer Commission (ACCC) will start sending about 400 letters every fortnight to suspected victims of online dating scams with warnings to stop sending money.

Recipients will be identified if suspicious cross-border money movements are flagged with anti-money laundering agents as part of the new scam distribution project.
There was a staggering $89 million in financial losses from scams last year, with dating and romance topping the list at more than $25 million, the ACCC found.

There were close to 3,000 reports of relationship scams in 2013, with one third of people losing more than $10,000.

ACCC Deputy Chair Delia Rickard said the aim was to disrupt the scam and therefore remove victims from scammers’ insidious clutches.

‘Scammers invest considerable time and effort deceiving you into a fake romance, a fraudulent business partnership or a complex investment scheme. Their ultimate aim is to build your trust so they can steal your personal details and money,’ she said.

‘Victims of relationship scams often don’t know they’re a victim until it’s too late and their money is gone forever.’

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August 22, 2014 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Nigerian Scammer Arrested in UK on Illinois Charges

Thisday newspaper

Olayinka Ilumsa Sunmola

A Nigerian man indicted in the United Kingdom (UK) has been accused of running an online “romance scam” that ensnared at least 30 women in Illinois, Missouri and elsewhere. He has been arrested in London, the US attorney’s office said Tuesday.

Olayinka Ilumsa Sunmola, 31, pretended to be a current or retired member of the military, using information and photos he had stolen from real people on online dating sites, the indictment says.

According to the St Loius Post-Dispatch, he wooed each woman for months, using flowers, stuffed animals, greeting cards and candy and promises that each “was his one true love, his sole love interest, and the woman with whom he intended to spend the rest of his life,” the indictment claimed.

Once they were involved in a relationship, Sunmola began manufacturing fake emergencies that required ever-increasing amounts of money from his victims, prosecutors said.

The victims were not named but lived in Illinois’ Bond County, St. Charles and St. Louis counties, Mascoutah and elsewhere. Sunmola often pretended to be from Mascoutah, the indictment said.

Sunmola scammed a Bond County woman into buying electronics and shipping them to him, reshipping electronics he had bought using stolen credit card information and taking out cash advances on a credit card, the indictment added. She was forced into bankruptcy, eventually owing at least $98,000.

One unnamed resident of Mascoutah was tricked into buying a webcam and posing “in a sexually suggestive position”, then blackmailed by Sunmola, prosecutors said. He emailed a video to her and relatives and threatened to post the pictures online, telling “the woman that by the time he was done with her she would want to kill herself” if she didn’t keep sending him money, prosecutors said.

Another was tricked into cashing fake traveller’s checks for Sunmola, caught and charged, the US attorney’s office said.

Sunmola was indicted on November 20 on eight felony counts of conspiracy, mail and wire fraud and extortion, but the indictment was not sealed until last month, to aid Sunmola’s extradition.
Sunmola, originally of Lagos, Nigeria, currently lives in South Africa and was arrested as he was preparing to board a British Airlines flight from Heathrow Airport to Johannesburg.

The US attorney’s office in Southern Illinois worked with the US Postal Inspection Service, Homeland Security Investigations, the US Secret Service and the Illinois attorney general’s office, which referred the case to prosecutors.

Another Nigerian man, Adagun Moshood Olalekan, was indicted by the same office March 4, and accused of a similar scam. He has been arrested by the Nigerian Economic and Financial Crime Commission (EFCC) and is awaiting extradition, prosecutors said

August 14, 2014 Posted by | Uncategorized | 2 Comments

Army investigators warn public about romance scams

QUANTICO, Va. (July 30, 2014) — Special Agents from the U.S. Army Criminal Investigation Command, commonly known as CID, are once again warning internet users worldwide about cyber criminals involved in an online crime that CID has dubbed “the Romance Scam.”

CID special agents continue to receive numerous reports from victims located around the world regarding various scams of persons impersonating U.S. Soldiers online. Victims are usually unsuspecting women, 30 to 55 years old, who believe they are romantically involved with an American Soldier, yet are being exploited and ultimately robbed, by perpetrators who strike from thousands of miles away.

“We cannot stress enough that people need to stop sending money to persons they meet on the internet and claim to be in the U.S. military,” said Chris Grey, Army CID’s spokesman.

“It is very troubling to hear these stories over and over again of people who have sent thousands of dollars to someone they have never met and sometimes have never even spoken to on the phone,” Grey said.

The majority of the “romance scams,” are being perpetrated on social media and dating-type websites where unsuspecting females are the main target.

The criminals are pretending to be U.S. servicemen, routinely serving in a combat zone. The perpetrators will often take the true rank and name of a U.S. Soldier who is honorably serving his country somewhere in the world, or has previously served and been honorably discharged, then marry that up with some photographs of a Soldier off the internet, and then build a false identity to begin prowling the internet for victims.

The scams often involve carefully worded romantic requests for money from the victim to purchase special laptop computers, international telephones, military leave papers, and transportation fees to be used by the fictitious “deployed Soldier” so their false relationship can continue. The scams include asking the victim to send money, often thousands of dollars at a time, to a third party address.

Once victims are hooked, the criminals continue their ruse.

“We’ve even seen instances where the perpetrators are asking the victims for money to purchase “leave papers” from the Army, help pay for medical expenses from combat wounds or help pay for their flight home so they can leave the war zone,” said Grey.

These scams are outright theft and are a grave misrepresentation of the U.S. Army and the tremendous amount of support programs and mechanisms that exist for Soldiers today, especially those serving overseas, said Grey.

Along with the romance-type scams, CID has been receiving complaints from citizens worldwide that they have been the victims of other types of scams — once again where a cyber crook is impersonating a U.S. service member. One version usually involves the sale of a vehicle; where the service member claims to be living overseas and has to quickly sell their vehicle because they are being sent to another duty station. After sending bogus information regarding the vehicle, the seller requests the buyer do a wire transfer to a third party to complete the purchase. When in reality, the entire exchange is a ruse for the crook to get the wire transfer and leave the buyer high and dry, with no vehicle.

Army CID continues to warn people to be very suspicious if they begin a relationship on the internet with someone claiming to be an American Soldier and within a matter of weeks, the alleged Soldier is asking for money, as well as discussing marriage.

The majority of these scams have a distinct pattern to them, explained Grey.

The perpetrators often tell the victims that their units do not have telephones or they are not allowed to make calls or they need money to “help keep the Army internet running.” They often say they are widowers and raising a young child on their own to pull on the heartstrings of their victims.

“We’ve even seen where the criminals said that the Army won’t allow the Soldier to access their personal bank accounts or credit cards,” said Grey.

All lies, according to CID officials.

“These perpetrators, often from other countries, most notably from West African countries, are good at what they do and quite familiar with American culture, but the claims about the Army and its regulations are ridiculous,” said Grey.

The Army reports that numerous very senior officers and enlisted Soldiers throughout the Army have had their identities stolen to be used in these scams.

To date, there have been no reports to Army CID indicating any U.S. service members have suffered any financial loss as a result of these attacks. Photographs and actual names of U.S. service members have been the only thing utilized. On the contrary, the victims have lost thousands.

One victim revealed that she had sent more than $60,000 to the scammer. Another victim from Great Britain told CID officials that over the course of a year, she had sent more than $75,000 to the con artists.

“The criminals are preying on the emotions and patriotism of their victims,” added Grey.

The U.S. has established numerous task force organizations to deal with this and other growing issues; unfortunately, the people committing these scams are using untraceable email addresses on Gmail, Yahoo, Hotmail, etc., routing accounts through numerous locations around the world, and utilizing pay-per-hour Internet cyber cafes, which often times maintain no accountability of use. The ability of law enforcement to identify these perpetrators is very limited, so individuals must stay on the alert and be personally responsible to protect themselves.

“Another critical issue is we don’t want victims who do not report this crime walking away and thinking that a U.S. serviceman has ripped them off when in fact that serviceman is honorably serving his country and often not even aware that his pictures or identity have been stolen,” said Grey.

What to look for:

DON’T EVER SEND MONEY! Be extremely suspicious if you are asked for money for transportation costs, communication fees or marriage processing and medical fees.

Carefully check out the stories you are being told. If it sounds suspicious, there is a reason, it’s routinely false — trust your instincts.

If you do start an internet-based relationship with someone, check them out, research what they are telling you with someone who would know, such as a current or former service member.

Be very suspicious if you never get to actually speak with the person on the phone or are told you cannot write or receive letters in the mail. Servicemen and women serving overseas will often have an APO or FPO mailing address. Internet or not, service members always appreciate a letter in the mail.

Military members have an email address that end in “.mil.” If the person you are speaking with cannot sent you at least one email from a “.mil” (that will be the very LAST part of the address and nothing after), then there is a high probability they are not in the military.

Many of the negative claims made about the military and the supposed lack of support and services provided to troops overseas are far from reality — check the facts.

Be very suspicious if you are asked to send money or ship property to a third party or company. Often times the company exists, but has no idea or is not a part of the scam.

Be aware of common spelling, grammatical or language errors in the emails.

Be cognizant of foreign and regional accents that do not match the person’s story.


Report the theft to the Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3) (FBI-NW3C Partnership) at

Report the theft to the Federal Trade Commission at

Your report helps law enforcement officials across the United States in their investigations.

Report the theft by phone at 1-877-ID-THEFT (438-4338) or TTY, 1-866-653-4261.

Report the theft by mail at the following address:

Identity Theft Clearinghouse
Federal Trade Commission
Washington, DC 20580

Report the fraud by email to the Federal Trade Commission on Nigerian Scams via at

For more information on CID, visit

August 2, 2014 Posted by | Uncategorized | 1 Comment


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